What’s the formula for getting the very best students in the world? Great students are a great thing to have in a democracy, because the democratic process requires an educated populace in order to function well. How can people be expected to research candidates and issues and then make informed decisions, without possessing advanced reading and critical thinking skills? Great...
Jared Diamond’s brilliant book Upheaval was published in May 2019. Remember that as you read this blog post. I would like to share some of Diamond’s conclusions—specifically, some of his conclusions regarding my own country, the United States. However, bear in mind that my sharing them out of the context of the entire book will render them less powerful. It’s...
Masterpieces: Plural Wow, wow, wow. I cannot praise Jared Diamond’s most recent book enough. It is astonishing that, more than two decades after publishing his groundbreaking bestseller Guns, Germs, and Steel, and after publishing numerous other cutting-edge, hard-hitting books, and while in his 80s, he has published yet another masterpiece. I do not use these words lightly. Trust me—I would...
There is a third question in the raging virus debate of 2020: 3. Should each of us have the right to make our own choices during an epidemic, in the name of independence, liberty, and freedom? (See my previous blog post for a discussion of the first two questions.) One Strategy: Target the Sick Let’s start by examining people’s liberty,...
Here in 2020—as you well know—there is a debate about whether or not to wear a mask in public. At the core of this debate is how to answer the following questions: Do we trust what scientists are telling us about the virus? It’s clear that scientists do not know everything about this virus; do they know enough that we...
As a rule, I do not feature books on this blog unless I enthusiastically recommend them. I have read (in their entirety) all the books I feature on this blog, but the opposite is not true; I do not feature on this blog all the books I finish reading. (To learn which books I completed but didn’t feature, and why...
But just as often, I am able to identify primary causes of anxiety that are more substantial. The feeling of pressure is not always caused by a relatively simple matter like trying to decide which mobile phone to get (as I wrote about in the first part of this two-part blog article). After all, my mobile phone dilemma is a...
As a person who suffers from anxiety, I understand the feeling of pressure. It hovers in the background of my days and dreams. Sometimes I’m aware of its presence; often I’m not. Often it’s just this invisible thing propelling me forward, or rather, away from the agony of the pressure, which doesn’t necessarily lead to anyplace that can be called...
Do you live in the general locale where you grew up? Do you live far from your childhood home? Do you find yourself constantly changing residences? Have you traveled the world? Do you prefer to stay home? The novel Creatures, by Crissy Van Meter, is about those who stay and those who leave. It’s about those who love home, despite...
This is a hard one. It’s not a hard book to read; that’s not what I mean. It’s a hard book to write about. As I explained last week, this is a book about whales—but it’s not really about whales. It’s called Creatures, and it’s about creatures that live in the sea—but it’s not really about that, either. It’s about...
WOW, there’s a lot of anger out there. And in here. And everywhere. It’s nearly impossible to go on the Internet, join a Zoom call, or chat with a friend without someone—maybe even you or me!—bursting out in a diatribe of some sort. Yep, we’re all angry, . . . but what is the root cause of this anger? And...
There’s something strange about friendship. I used to think, in the ignorance of youth, that it wasn’t possible to be true friends with someone unless there were common interests and beliefs. I used to think that there could be cooperation between such people, but not true friendship. As a result, I shied away from people a lot . . ....
HAVE YOU NOTICED that a disproportionate number of songs seem to be about singing? And a disproportionate number of paintings seem to be about painting? And a disproportionate number of writings seem to be about writing? It makes sense. Artists make art about what they know, and one of the things they know best is their form of art. This...
Okay, folks, here’s the hard part. You’re in a conversation with someone. You’re talking about something interpersonally difficult. You want the conversation to go well. You’re trying to look at the situation objectively. You’re trying to direct your intention toward genuinely connecting with compassion and the hope of understanding the other person’s views. Those are great starts, . . ....
I was recently listening to a podcast. (I’ve been doing a lot of that in the past few weeks. Listening is something my concussed brain can handle better than most other activities.) The podcast featured an expert in psychology, trauma, and social work. This expert made the point that effective communication skills are not generally taught in schools, but are...
Oren Jay Sofer, an expert in mindful communication, tells the following story in his book Say What You Mean. It’s a true story about a friend of his who displayed mindful perseverance in connecting with a stranger: “One afternoon in Boston, he met an attractive young woman while waiting at a crosswalk. They had a short but warm connection, and...
I didn’t know what today was, either . . . until I was informed, by the fount of wisdom and kindness and all-American charm B.K., that today is the first day of Mental Health Month! According to the nonprofit organization Mental Health America, “1 in 5 people will experience a mental illness during their lifetime.” Moreover, “everyone faces challenges in...
“Right this minute, people may be respecting you behind your back.” This is one of my favorite sentences from a useful book I recently read, Habits of a Happy Brain, by Loretta Graziano Breuning. How true, how true! Yes, people may be saying good things about you, and you may not even realize it! Breuning writes about what’s known as...
Help! I’ve been cut off from nearly all of my habitual social gatherings! I feel bad and sad! It’s the feeling of loneliness! I’m craving a hug from someone I know and trust! Where’s my hug?! I’m craving an in-person gathering of my best girlfriends, or an in-person gathering of my book club, or, I mean, anyone up for a...
There’s someone in your life you can rely upon to give you sound advice. This person knows exactly what’s missing, or over the top, in your outfit. This person knows just how you should respond to that tricky situation at work. This person has impeccable artistic taste, a comprehensive knowledge of wines and mixed drinks, and a strange and rare...
Tunnel vision. Oh my goodness, it’s so hard to avoid. You’re living inside yourself. You have your worldview. You have the worldview handed down to you by your parents and upbringing and childhood experiences. And you may have an altered worldview that you adopted during the transition to adulthood, or as significant changes and learning experiences occurred in your life....
I would like to nominate the following sentence for the award of Best First Sentence of a Work of Fiction That I’ve Read in the Last Year. Brace yourself. This is a great first sentence: “Joey felt that his romance with Daisy might ruin his life, but that didn’t stop him.” Wow—it feels so good to write about something other...
We’re doing the social distancing thing, due to the coronavirus. It feels strange and awkward and new and unprecedented and scary and confusing. But there is great precedent! We are currently engaged in a vast social experiment: can we continue to work and earn a living, keep up friendships and make new friends, date and experience romance, and obtain the...
In the 1700s, the world was opening up to Western explorers. Plants from all over the world were arriving in England, and they all seemed wonderfully exotic. A few Englishmen were enthralled. They dedicated their lives to learning about plants from diverse continents, scientifically classifying them, and growing them in gardens and on estates. As Andrea Wulf explains in her...
You’ve surely heard about the infamous mutiny on HMS Bounty. The story of what happened on His Majesty’s ship (HMS), in the late 1780s, is fascinating: the ship navigating from England to the South Pacific; the captain and crew on a specific mission, requiring them to go to the island of Tahiti; working together to fulfill the crux of that...
When I was three years old, as I was told, and I may have some of the details wrong here, but this is my recollection of what I was told—my family was at a crossroads. We were living in the D.C. area. My dad was launching his career and got two good job offers. One was near a famous, glamorous...
Happy Valentine’s Day!! Today is the day when we get closer to our loved ones, share our most special bonds, and rejoice in love, romance, and companionship! So snuggle up to your . . . What’s that? You don’t have a special someone to snuggle up to? Well then, snuggle up to your heritage. Or your friends. Or your family....
The novel Severance, by Ling Ma, is a fast-paced, apocalyptic story. It was the perfect novel for me to read while recovering from my concussion. I read it way back in the early days of my recovery, when my brain was having trouble processing anything difficult or deep. But this novel is suddenly way deeper than I had bargained for....
Hey everyone, thanks to all who sent me heartfelt get better wishes, including any of you who sent them telepathically only. I have received your messages, and they are bolstering me through this difficult time of concussion setback recovery. It’s unfortunately going to be a two-week process of getting back to where I was before the setback. But the good...
That’s a good question. Glad you asked! I wrote in last Friday’s blog post about the brilliant author Ibram X. Kendi and his 2019 book How to Be an Antiracist. Kendi reveals (as I noted in that post) that many of us unwittingly use words and perform actions that seem innocuous, but are actually racist. So you might be wondering,...
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Infinite Jest David Foster Wallace
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A Journal of the Plague Year Daniel Defoe
Creatures Crissy Van Meter
Indelicacy Amina Cain
Say What You Mean Oren Jay Sofer
Habits of a Happy Brain Loretta Graziano Breuning
Bad Behavior, This Is Pleasure Mary Gaitskill
The Brother Gardeners Andrea Wulf
Severance Ling Ma
How to Be an Antiracist Ibram X. Kendi
The Museum of Modern Love Heather Rose
Why I Write George Orwell
The Woman Destroyed Simone de Beauvoir
Educated Tara Westover
The Gift Hafiz
The Collected Schizophrenias Esmé Weijun Wang
Your Duck Is My Duck Deborah Eisenberg
Sapiens Yuval Noah Harari
Milkman Anna Burns
Under the Banner of Heaven Jon Krakauer
Waiting for Bojangles Olivier Bourdeaut
A Mind Unraveled Kurt Eichenwald
Eugénie Grandet Honoré de Balzac
The Body Keeps the Score Bessel van der Kolk, M.D.
The Bookshop Penelope Fitzgerald
Digital Minimalism Cal Newport
The Sisters Brothers Patrick deWitt
Dare to Lead Brené Brown
My Year of Rest and Relaxation Ottessa Moshfegh
Almost Everything Anne Lamott
Born to Run Christopher McDougall, Bruce Springsteen
The Ladies’ Paradise Émile Zola
The World Beyond Your Head Matthew B. Crawford
All the Birds, Singing Evie Wyld
Barracoon Zora Neale Hurston
Dandelion Wine Ray Bradbury
JavaScript & jQuery Jon Duckett
Home Fire Kamila Shamsie
The Weather Detective Peter Wohlleben
Play It As It Lays Joan Didion
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck Mark Manson
Convenience Store Woman Sayaka Murata
Perfect Me Heather Widdows
Sorry to Disrupt the Peace Patty Yumi Cottrell
Why Buddhism Is True Robert Wright
What Is Real? Adam Becker
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The Days of Abandonment Elena Ferrante
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